I am with my mother virtually 7 days a week, 24 hours a day so I get many opportunities to observe her. I watch her while she eats. I watch her as she takes her walks. I watch her as she rides in the car. You get the idea.
As of this moment, I am also watching the progress of Hurricane Irma. We have family and friends in the great state of Florida so after the Hurricane Harvey results, we are worried. We can open our home up to anyone who needs a place, but we are so far away, it would not be feasible.
There is so much we don’t know. We have no idea how folks are really coping. What of all the people in care homes or hospitals? What of the ones who are elderly and far away from family? What will happen? There are so many questions, but I know this – there are efforts underway the likes of which I have no idea of. The scope of what is being mobilized literally takes an army and what about the families of that so called army? You get the idea.
In the same vein, mom has no idea what happens in order for her to be provided for. She has lost the ability to see past the few feet in front of her and in some cases she can’t even see that. This morning, in her haste to cross a street during our walk, I had to physically hold her back because of an oncoming car. Mom does not eat unless a plate is prepared and placed in front of her. She does not snack unless her snack basket is replenished. She does not take her medication unless I administer it.
Here is what I know she knows:
- How to do simple tasks like brushing her teeth or washing the dishes
- Some of her past in little tidbits that she strings together
- Enough to create conflict when she insists on her way
Here is what she doesn’t know:
- Her present – what day, time, date, season, or even when it is mealtime
- We work around her – even when we shop, she can’t make the connection between what we purchase and why
- She is protected and cared for tenderly and with great patience and love
My heart goes out to folks in situations like ours because like mom, there is so much we don’t know! All the research I have done has helped me personally cope and understand some of mom’s condition. I am grateful for the researchers, doctors, and people who have a mission to inform those like me who have no idea. For our family, we ultimately believe that God will take care of us and that He knows what we don’t know. Oh the peace that comes with knowing that.